In 1996, the Spice Girls' debut single was called "Wannabe." The song topped the charts in the UK and the US. Do you remember the lyrics?
The song started with a call and response between Scary Spice and Ginger Spice...
"Yo, I'll tell you what I want, what I really, really want
So tell me what you want, what you really, really want"
I loved that song. It was one of the [many] songs I'd practice lip synching to while jumping and dancing on my bed after school.
But what if you have no idea what you want (let alone what you really, REALLY want)?
This episode is all about what you can do if you don't know what you want. In it, I share a few different approaches for you to explore and make your own.
And one thing I want to make crystal clear: not knowing what you want is completely normal and it's NOT your fault.
Women in our patriarchal culture have been conditioned to please and put everyone else’s needs first. We’re taught that it’s selfish + greedy + wrong + bad to think of ourselves. Sheesh.
While working at Mama Gena's School of Womanly Arts, I talked to thousands of women on the phone.
The most common dilemma that I heard on my calls with the women who were interested in our programs was that they didn't know what they wanted. And I was talking to a wide variety of women with different races, ages, passions, backgrounds, and experiences.
I'd hear things like:
- "When I finally get time to myself away from my kids, I have no idea what I want to do. Time to myself is so rare that I end up putting so much pressure on myself that I just freeze like a deer in headlights ."
- "I've made so many choices based on what others needed / wanted / expected from me that I lost touch with what brings me joy."
- "Why does it feel like everyone else knows what they want and I can't even decide what to eat for dinner? What's wrong with me?"
- "I've invested so much of my life towards the people I love that I've forgotten what activities I like, let alone what I want out of a relationship or a job."
Do you relate to any of these?
I'm so curious - are you enjoying Outgrow the Grind?
What's been helpful?
What are you curious about?
What do you want more of?
Comment below if you feel like sharing.
Wishing you a happy Spring🌷 and a terrific rest of your week!
P.S. Ya wanna know what I really, really want? I want 50 folks to give Outgrow the Grind five-star ratings on Apple Podcasts!! I'm at 42 five-star ratings now (thank you so much if you've already given me a rating or written a review! 💜). If you haven't, will you be one of the 8 that helps me reach my goal of 50 five-star ratings? I would be so jazzed if you would! You can add your review here. Thank you!!