"The grind" could be...

Doing everything on your own and not asking for help

A revolving door of self-help classes / diets / "bootcamps" that you’ve tried that all left you feeling crummy

Feeling nonstop guilt (both for what you are and aren’t doing)…

And I don't know about you, but I have many more years of practice taking care of others than I do taking care of myself.

For most of my life, empathy tended to flow OUT instead of IN.

The words "How can I help you" made their way out of my mouth so much easier than "what do I need?"

Carving out time and space for yourself requires saying "no" to other things. And by saying "no" to other commitments, you say YES to yourself!

Yes, that rose that managed to get just enough sunlight, water and nutrients and all those things is exceptional, but what would that rose have been if it was planted in fertile soil? What if you found the place where you were nurtured and developed and you could really just thrive?

And one thing I want to make crystal clear: not knowing what you want is completely normal and it's NOT your fault.

It's time for us to come together in grief and solidarity to build safe communities where EVERYONE is treated with dignity and respect.